Forgiving, Forgetting, and Moving On: Building a Culture of Trust

In any workplace, conflicts, disagreements, and misunderstandings are sure to arise. People have different personalities, perspectives, and approaches, which can lead to clashes and strained relationships. However, fostering a healthy work environment requires a culture of forgiveness, forgetting, and moving on. It's essential to acknowledge the importance of these qualities in building trust, fostering collaboration, and maintaining overall well-being in our schools. I'm happy to claim my workplaces to be energetic and vibrant school buildings!

Forgiveness Forgiveness is a powerful act that allows individuals to let go of grievances and resentments. Holding onto grudges not only weighs us down emotionally but also affects our productivity and teamwork. When we forgive others, we release ourselves from the negative energy associated with holding onto past hurts. It opens up space for understanding, empathy, and reconciliation. Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting or condoning the actions; it means choosing to move forward and not allowing negativity to define our interactions. Without practicing this, it is near impossible to make a positive process with a positive self and workplace culture.

Forgetting Forgetting, on the other hand, is often misunderstood. It doesn't imply erasing memories or disregarding past experiences. Instead, it means not letting those experiences dictate present and future interactions. When we forget, we give people the chance to grow, learn from their mistakes, and demonstrate positive change. By focusing on the present and the potential for improvement, we create an environment where individuals can flourish without being constantly reminded of their past errors. In the words of Queen Elsa of Arendelle, "Let it go!"

Moving On Moving on complements forgiveness and forgetting by emphasizing the importance of progress and growth. It involves leaving behind resentment and dwelling on negative experiences. Moving on allows individuals to redirect their energy towards positive actions, collaboration, and achieving common goals. It signifies resilience, adaptability, and a commitment to building a supportive work culture.

My mom taught me valuable lessons while growing up and continues to do so. One of those lessons was not to keep a score of what others are giving or receiving. Sometimes fair isn't equal. When you are keeping score, you are taking away opportunities to participate and help your team to succeed. Instead, move on from the fixation with who is giving more vs who is receiving more and focus on your own giving and receiving. By doing so, you'll help the team be successful. In many cases I'd hear her remind me that Billy needs to worry about Billy and Jeff needs to worry about Jeff. If we both did that, we'd be a lot more effective and efficient. In her mind, we'd do less fighting and get more chores done 🤣.

All joking aside, building a culture of forgiveness, forgetting, and moving on requires intentional effort from everyone in school districts. Here are a few ways to promote these qualities:

1. Encourage open communication: Create a safe space where employees can express their concerns, apologize, and seek resolution. Foster a culture that values dialogue and encourages empathy.
2. Lead by example: Superintendents, principals, directors, teachers, and all other leaders should demonstrate forgiveness, forget, and move on themselves. When they model these behaviors, it sets the tone for the rest of the organization to follow.
3. Provide conflict resolution mechanisms: Implement processes that help resolve conflicts in a fair and constructive manner. Encourage mediation, peer-to-peer discussions, and professional development opportunities focused on improving relationships.
4. Celebrate growth and positive change: Acknowledge and reward individuals who demonstrate personal and professional growth. Highlight stories of resilience and learning from past experiences.

In closing, forgiveness, forgetting, and moving on are essential components of building a culture of trust in school districts. By embracing these qualities, individuals can foster understanding, empathy, and collaboration. It enables employees to focus on their present contributions and work towards a stronger future together. Truth be told, I work hard on this daily as it is an area of opportunity. Blogging about it creates accountability 🙂. Please join me in striving to build positive district cultures!